I found this article online a couple days ago. While I was reading it, all I kept thinking was, “This is SO true!” and I couldn’t help but laugh. I have to say #7 and #9 don’t really apply to me, but it may to most others… and I changed Chinese food in #8 to Pho because we would rather have Pho over Chinese any day! I also added a couple at the end (after #13) that are from my personal experience…
Dating a med student? Check out these tips for a “healthy” relationship.
- Don't expect to see them. Ever.
- Accept the fact they will have many affairs. With their books.
- Learn to hide your “ew, gross” reactions when they tell you all the stuff you never wanted to know about your bodily functions.
- Support them when freak out over each test and then come home after, upset because they failed—and gently remind them after they get their well above passing grade how unnecessary the “I’m going to fail out of medical school and never become a doctor” dramatics are.
- Each week they will have a new illness. Some will be extremely rare, others will be more mundane. Doesn’t matter. They will be certain they have it (no second opinions necessary). Med school can, and will, turn even the sanest into a hypochondriac. Date them for long enough, and you’ll become one too.
- There will be weeks you'll forget you even have a boyfriend—friends will ask how he is and you'll say, “What? Who? Oh….right. He's well…I think?”
- They'll make you hyper-aware that germs are everywhere and on everything. Even though you used to walk into your home with your shoes on, and sit on your bed in the same clothes you just wore while riding the subway, or sat on a public bench in, you'll become far too disgusted to ever do it again. Believe me, it's going to get bad…you'll watch yourself transform into the anal retentive person you swore you'd never become. And when you witness others perform these same acts that, before you began dating your med student, you spent your entire life doing too, you'll wince and wonder, “Ew! How can they do that? Don't they know how many germs and bacteria they're spreading??!”
- Romantic date = Pho take-out in front of the TV on their 10 minute study break.
- A vacation together consists of a trip down the street to Walgreens for new highlighters and printer paper.
- Their study habits will make you feel like a complete slacker. For them, hitting the books 8-to-10 hours a day is not uncommon, nor difficult. You'll wonder how you ever managed to pass school on your meager one hour of studying per night.
- They're expected to know everything. Everything! The name of the 8 billion-lettered, German sounding cell that lives in the depths of your inner ear, the technical term for the “no one's ever heard of this disease” disease that exists only on one foot of the Southern tip of the African continent. But ask them if your knee is swollen, or what you should do to tame your mucous-filled cough, or why the heck your head feels like someone's been drilling through it for oil for two weeks straight, and they won't have a clue.
- “My brain's filled with so much information, I can't be expected to remember THAT!” will be the standard excuse for forgetting anniversaries, birthdays, and, if you get this far, probably the birth of your first child.
- You'll need friends with unending patience who pretend never to get sick of listening to your endless venting and complaints. Or, you'll need to pay a therapist who will pretend never to get sick of listening to your endless venting and complaints.
- Be prepared to move.. a LOT through the upcoming years, and maybe even across the country. Unless you meet them after they have already started med school, then you may only need to move once… or maybe not at all, depending on where they are in their medical track.
- Don’t ask, or if you do, expect them to remember anything but what is coming up on the next test. And don’t expect them to remember a lot of what you talk to them about, either.
- Expect them to talk about medicine all the time. No matter what. No matter who they are around. Nothing anymore is normal, it all has medical connotations.
- While watching House (or other favorite medical drama), they will try and solve the “unsolvable” medical mystery.
But take this all with a grain of salt. It's not like I'm speaking from experience or anything…
Dating a med student is hard and to be honest, I didn’t know what I was getting into when I started dating my boyfriend. We started dating before he even decided to go to medical school. Medicine was just a distant thought in his mind and he already had a career… a good one. A few years after we met and started dating is when he began medical school and now he’s getting ready to start his third year [of school] soon.
However, none of that matters now. We have been through a LOT together and I know we are going to go through a lot more. I didn’t originally sign up for this, but when you love someone you will do anything and everything for them… I love the life that we have created together and I can’t imagine it any other way!
“The best time of your entire medical school career is between the times when you first get your acceptance letter and when you start school.”